New Hollywood Film Lays Bare the Truth About Fertility Treatment

truth about fertility treatment in Private Life

Hollywood films aren’t just entertaining; they can be pretty eye-opening, too. Every so often, a film comes along which educates viewers about more serious issues and the new Netflix Original movie Private Life is one of them.

Written and directed by Tamara Jenkins, the film was one of the opening choices at the Sundance Film Festival. It features a top-star cast and covers the issue of infertility. Showing just how draining the fertility treatment process can be, Private Life also provides plenty of dark humour to keep viewers entertained.

Highlighting the reality for many IVF patients

There aren’t many films which highlight the harsh reality IVF patients face. While you might think that going through IVF treatment together would bring couple’s closer together, sadly this isn’t always the case. Private Life manages to show the truth about IVF treatment, while also adding a little dark humour to balance it out.

In the film, Paul Giamatti and Kathryn Hahn play the lead roles of 47- and 41-year-old Richard and Rachel; a couple who have struggled with fertility issues for years. After failing to get pregnant via IVF using her own eggs, Rachel and her husband decide to use a donor to get pregnant, played by actress Kayli Carter. Throughout the film, Richard and Rachel begin to grow apart as hormone injections and frequent doctor’s visits put a halt to their sex life.

IVF can be extremely stressful, and it can push a relationship to the limit. It is something many couples are not prepared for and Private Lives provides an interesting insight.

Relationship advice for those undergoing fertility treatment

While the stress, frustration and upset of IVF treatment can place significant tension on a relationship, there are ways that a couple can minimise the negative effects.

First and foremost, before embarking on IVF treatment, it’s recommended couple’s sit down and talk about key issues. How do you both feel about the level of medical intervention you’ll experience, for example? There will be a lot of tests, doctor’s appointments and procedures carried out along the way and it’s important both partners are happy with the level of intrusion they might face.

Once you do go ahead, the main things which tend to cause pressure and stress within the relationship are blame and a lack of confidence. It’s easy to start playing the blame game, especially when you’re waiting for results. It can be agonising, and the frustration felt at the problems experienced can be aimed at each other. However, what you need to remember is that, regardless of who has the fertility issue, it isn’t their fault. Deep down you know that, but it’s important to remember it before pointing the finger.

At Chiltern Fertility, we do advise couples to go through the counselling process offered when they begin IVF, as this can help them to explore their feelings in a healthier environment.